I WORK FOR ME, NOT FOR YOU!

The worst feeling in the world is having someone around you who constantly feels like they are entitled to something. Like you owe them something when in reality all you really owe them is a kick in the ass and maybe a good cursing out. I’ll start off by saying this…you don’t owe a person a dang thing unless you just want to give it to them. For example men start marrying these women who think that they’re supposed to be taken care of because “the bible says it”. NEWS FLASH yes the bible says the man is supposed to work but nowhere in there does it say that while the man works you do NOTHING. Men start that mess in the beginning by trying to win her over with gifts and fake lies of “baby you don’t have to worry about a thing I GOT THIS”. Which in translation means (I’ll spend all this money on you now because I’m trying to make an impression but little do I know you’re going to get used to it and not want to work). Then you have those family members who think that because you’re family that means you should want to help them. Yes, helping your family is good but when that family member is doing absolutely nothing with their life that’s when you have to draw the line. Everybody has that uncle or aunt who is either an alcoholic or drug abuser who always got an issue in their life and needs to borrow money or wants you to buy them something. But you know all they are going to do is abuse it, or u have those parents who were barely there for you as a child but once they see you doing something great in your life they feel like they are entitled to everything you have because “I Raised You”. In fact you don’t owe your parents anything besides respect but don’t get me wrong you should want to take care of your parents because they took care of you. But I’m not talking about those kinds of parents I’m talking about the ones who were never there or they were there but always put some man or woman above you. The ones that when you get grown and do great things wants to be the first one to say they were the reason for it or the ones you love so much that you will do anything for until them until they completely wipe out your bank account because they feel (you should want to help your mama/daddy). That is where you draw the line and say (I Work For Me, Not For You. If helping someone begins to put you in a bind don’t be afraid to say no just because it’s you family because when you are out on your luck they will be nowhere to be found. Or you get those people that get TOO comfortable TOO soon i.e. you meet a man/woman you hitting it off for the first few days next thing you know they need to borrow some money. That comes in where u can be a fool and give it to them or u can risk pissing them off by simply saying (NO). The minute you say (no) will be the minute they’re true colors come out they will either A. Thank you and be cool about it or B. Get pissed and probably never talk to you again. Either way it goes they got TOO comfortable TOO soon. How they heck can you get that comfortable to where you can ask a person you’re trying to serenade for money? The first few days of a relationship is the part where you impress each other even if you “aint got it” you pretend like you got it all. They’ll eventually see they you were just blinding them but even then if a person likes you for you they will like you for what you have instead of what you don’t have. People usually mess themselves up by thinking well if I help them maybe that will make them appreciate me or like me more cause it shows I’m down for them WRONG. In fact that person has already made up in their mind how they feel about you and you giving them money is only adding fuel to the fire of “stupidity”. There’s a difference if you’re giving money to a person because they are trying to better themselves, and they just fell on hard times. But then you get those people who were broke when you met them and don’t have any intentions of getting a job, but because the sex was great or they’re nice to you u fall for the scam. This is where the phrase “I Work For, Me Not For You” comes into play. You work hard every day to be able to buy things and do things for yourself and not to give it to some person who feels like they’re entitled to it. That’s where the 3 F’s come in at (Fuck, Feed, Finance) if you’re not doing any of these in no consecutive order you aren’t entitled to a dang thing. If you can’t manage one of these you better find one that you can and manage it with all your might, this day in age everything is about impression. If a man or woman see’s you about to approach they already have in their mind if this nigga/chick broke he can’t even get a hello. Only problem with this is if you broke your damn self you are not entitled to be picky if anything you should be happy somebody wants to approach your broke ass. So with that being said keep in mind that everything you do in life is for your own happiness and the benefit of your children. No man or woman shall come into your life and feel entitled to anything “just because” if they are benefitting you in some way then it’s only respectful that you benefit them. However; if they aren’t doing anything besides feeling entitled that’s when you tell them “I Work For Me, Not For You”

RIGHT BACK WHERE WE STARTED

Everything was great almost like a warm sunny day on the beach nothing more nothing less. Every time he speaks I get weak and every time he looks my heart shook. I wasn’t too sure about this love kinda felt new almost like it was sent from above. I promised myself (God if you send me another love I wont make the same mistakes that everyone does). So I endulged in the happiness and joy of this new love he made me feel like no one else does. So me being me I figured (maybe if I give him a taste of this love it’ll make him fall in love). So we endulged in passionate love something like a magician without the glove but it was ok cuz we were “in love”. You never find out the true meaning behind an “I love you” until you give yourself over to the man behind you. Then everything becomes an emotional rollercoaster he wanna be friends but you don’t wanna pretend…like your there but your really not there. People always say you shouldn’t care what someone says but they’re not the one being “fuck friends”. So you become this psychotic freak of nature blowing up his phone making every love song your song every other question is “how do you feel about me”. But he doesn’t wanna tell u that he’d rather be feeling on you than to be feeling someway about you. So push comes to shove and nothing that he does brings you joy anymore and he just don’t wanna be an item anymore. So you do what all women do you give him another taste thinking maybe that’ll erase the fact that we can’t elate. Making the biggest mistake of all making a man love you who just doesn’t want to love you at all. But you cant blame him for your fate because he was honest but you didn’t hear what he wanted to say you only heard what you think he should say. Now we’re right back where we started all alone and broken hearted.

The miseducation of WOMEN

The human race is miseducated on the complexity of the female gender something u can’t blame them for because you only know as much as you have seen or taught through family. Every man walking this earth has learned everything he knows from an individual whom he looks up to but 9 times out of 10 none of it holds truth. See men think they have women all figured out and that a woman is just something they can look at and automatically know what she is all about. A woman will never let a man know exactly what she is capable of because that ruins the curiosity of the mind. So if she can keep you curious then that means she can keep you under her wing. However; this is only acquired with maturity most young women show a man what she’s all about on the first day because she believes this will keep him around….WRONG!! In fact the less a man knows about you over periods of time the stronger a bond u will grow due to the fact that he has to actually put in work to get to know the real you. Now if a man only wants sex this tactic will not work (at all) and if he sees he has to put up a fight then he will just move on to the next female. Women on the other hand can tell what a man is about from the very first approach. The way you approach a woman says quite a lot about how you are as an individual which will then be based upon the answer you will receive from that woman. So if a woman does give you her number this doesn’t guarantee you a relationship in fact she probably only gave you the number just to see if her assumption of youu was right or wrong. If the woman is indeed attracted by your approach then this Intel’s a totally different reaction from her. Now what I am trying to say is that men are Miseducated about women they think if you show a REAL woman a whole lot of money flashy cars and all this other material wealth that will make her want you. The miseducation of this is that a woman can careless about what it is you have if you don’t treat her like a queen. Most men feel if they have all this material wealth that entitles them to run the woman which false. Hell some of them feel that just because they are the man this entitles them to rule the relationship FALSE. Just look at the word WOMAN: We Own MAN!!! A woman will let you believe you running some stuff just to boost your ego but in actuality you ain’t ruling a thing you have been miseducated by the men in your life that tell you these lies. And that’s where the MISEDUCATION OF WOMAN begins.